The eyes are burning, the heart is beating, the voice betrays excitement, constantly strives to touch this way or that, all the time “strolling” through your pages on social networks - don’t you know all the symptoms that accompany a man’s hidden feelings! And for some reason he looks away. Doesn’t offer to see you off, doesn’t ask what you’re doing tonight. Doesn't call, although he knows your number. Why is that? Why do men in love hide behind feigned indifference, and what should we, women, do in this case?
Let's start with the fact that his indifference may not be ostentatious at all. Maybe you overdid it with reciprocal signs of attention, and he was tired of your look full of expectation. Or he's just chilled out and wants to take a break. According to studies of male psychology, the stages of love for men almost always include a stage of doubt, when a woman who seemed incredibly attractive just yesterday suddenly ceases to evoke any emotions. This is normal for the stronger sex. Give him the benefit of the doubt, wait. Is yours the man will not go anywhere, time will pass - and feelings will cover him with renewed vigor. And if they were just a whim, sympathy or a passing hobby, there’s nothing to be done about it.
Often, a man’s ostentatious indifference after hot warmth and beautiful courtship is a sign of a notorious heartthrob. This technique is actively used by pick-up artists and Casanovas to quickly get sex from women. This is a kind of “contrast shower”, with the help of which a person can be thrown out of balance and pushed into a rash act. If a man is truly in love with you, he will not resort to such tricks. A loving man will court you (without much pressure), gradually get closer to you, get to know you and build relationships in a format convenient for you until you yourself are ready for the next step.
Well, when you are sure that a man seriously loves, but hides his feelings, then this is a completely different situation. There can be many reasons. If he has not yet confessed his love to you, perhaps he is afraid of rejection and therefore is hesitating. It is possible that he is being hampered by some circumstances that you do not know about. In any case, all you can do to help him is to be as friendly and friendly as possible. Hint that you are not against the development of events, but do not go on the attack. Don't take the lead: it belongs to the man. Let him deal with his feelings and internal obstacles.
It happens that you have been in a relationship as a couple for a long time - and suddenly your partner, as they say, began to “back up”. There is no reason to doubt his feelings, but in appearance he is trying to appear deliberately calm and even cold. This usually happens after quarrels: male psychology has long established that asking for forgiveness and taking steps towards reconciliation is many times more difficult for the stronger sex than for us women. The feeling of guilt in a relationship is the worst thing for them, so they are ready to do anything rather than admit that they are wrong. By pretending to be indifferent, a man is simply trying to appear stronger than he is. How can I help him? Again, make it clear that you won’t push her away, won’t remember the bad things, and won’t hurt your pride. Show your friendliness and openness. But nothing more.
Usually time puts everything in its place, so just be patient. Although, this is precisely what is most difficult for us, women. This is exactly what distinguishes the male and female psychology of relationships: if he switches easily, is ready to walk in circles and wait as long as he wants, then you want to find out everything as quickly as possible and calm down. But it was not there...
What to do if a man demonstrates ostentatious indifference?
I repeat: in most cases it is better to do nothing. Pretending is not a very honest technique in itself, so you shouldn’t play along. Although this is, of course, a reason to reconsider your relationship and analyze what is wrong with it, why such an unpleasant situation arose. Especially if it has been going on for a long time. Men practice deliberately ostentatious indifference for the sole purpose of making a woman more active. He wants to get you to take more steps in his direction, to turn the relationship in a more convenient direction for him, in order to continue it on the terms that are more beneficial to him. Thus, transferring to you more responsibility. Each situation is individual, so think carefully: are you really ready to make more investments on your part, will it be justified, will the balance in your relationship be upset?
Perhaps before this you acted like a capricious princess in a tower, waiting for the knight to free you and conquer you, or you kept him in the friend zone for too long, not saying yes or no. When a girl either brings you closer or pushes you away, any conqueror sooner or later loses patience. Well, how do you understand what a woman loves? If a man shows indifference, it is possible that he is simply tired of the one-sided nature of your communication. He was tired of constantly inventing something, offering, giving endless advances without receiving anything in return. Then you really should think about what valuable and necessary things you, in turn, can give to your partner so that his interest does not fade away.
But if there was approximately equal activity on both sides, then there is no point in doubling your efforts. On the contrary, excessive female initiative is punishable. Gender roles in relationships have not been abolished. is such that a gentleman, by virtue of his nature, is supposed to be a conqueror and a hunter. It is quite normal if he makes a little more investment and shows a little more initiative, especially in the initial stages of the relationship, while it is not yet very defined and you have not become an established married couple. And, if, instead of honestly fulfilling his male role, he tries to provoke you to take this step, guided by the principle: “the less we love a woman, the easier it is for her to like us” - then this is just manipulation, which in no case is necessary give in. Your relationship won't get any better after this.
Male and female psychology of relationships: how to reconcile them?
To insure yourself against troubles and not lose someone who really cares about you, make yourself a simple rule: always reinforce a step forward with a step forward, a step back - respond with a step back, or do not respond at all. Encourage any good initiative, but never run after someone who is moving away. This way you will maintain balance in your relationship and the ground under your feet. Any relationship should be built on the principle of healthy exchange, remember this. And rack your brains less with questions like “why does a man hide his feelings, why this ostentatious indifference?” Understand not his motives, but your reactions. Remember your interests and try to control only your own actions. It's the only thing you can do.
Man and woman are polarities, between which there is a constant spark.
Therefore, indifference in the psychology of a man’s relationship with a woman is essentially impossible. Yin and Yang, active and passive, obvious and hidden, logic and intuition, restraint and passion - between these opposite poles there is always tension, an energetic current. It can be different in appearance - a man next to a woman can feel a surge of energy and strength, or vice versa, the relationship drains both.
It all depends on the goal. If a woman intends to use a man for physical and material pleasures, his potential will quickly dry up without receiving anything in return.
If she strives to fill her chosen one with care, attention and love, a man is unlikely to leave such a cozy space, of course, if he has not completely sunk and does not care about anything other than satisfying animal instincts.
Indifference in the psychology of relationships is common. Both women and men can be indifferent. Although, in truth, the stronger sex is more guilty of this. Why? A man is a player by nature, a passionate nature. Therefore, his interest should be constantly warmed up. For a man’s attention there should always be a point of application - and this “point” is in a woman - something that awakens in him excitement and a desire to get to know you further!
Reasons for indifference in relationships
Male curiosity and female mystery always go together. If you want a man to pay attention to you, do not reveal all your secrets at once.
Let, after a year, five years, ten, you will still be terra incognita for him (this is how unknown lands that have yet to be discovered were previously called).
By the way, about the meaning of the word. Let's clarify what indifference means - an indifferent, indifferent attitude towards someone or something. What does a person usually not want to participate in? The fact that he is not interested in any way... or the severe consequences of a relationship with a woman have been deposited in his past, and feigned indifference covers up mental pain. Often people become womanizers, philanderers, and womanizers after just one bitter breakup.
But if this option is the area of help from a psychologist, then how to be attractive depends solely on the woman. And I'm not talking about appearance, wardrobe or makeup here.
The feminine mystery is not dictated by fashion.
Remember the most fatal women of history - Cleopatra, Roksolana - small in stature, with a plain face, their society was sought after by the best of the best!
How do you solve indifference in the psychology of relationships now? Here are the queries women enter when searching online:
- how to take revenge on your husband for indifference?
- How to teach a lesson for indifference?
- how to punish him for indifference?
Come to your senses, are you in a war or a relationship?! Although for many couples, unfortunately, this is the same thing. Of course, there is also the request
Husband's indifference. What to do?
We will try to find the answer to this together. Indifference in the psychology of a man’s relationship with a woman can be corrected. To begin with, accept that you yourself may be the reason for the indifference towards you. Blaming other people for your troubles is stupid and pointless. Now ask yourself:
- When did you notice the first signs of your husband's indifference?
- What happened before this moment?
- What did you do to make him lose attention to you? Or didn't they?..
Try these questions in different order and write down everything that comes to mind without thinking.
- How do you benefit from an indifferent relationship?
- And why do you need this particular man who is next to you now?
Of course, the reasons for indifference can be discussed together, but only if you calmly accept any mutual answers. A good option is to seek psychological advice, especially if your biography includes the loss of a loved one and the pain of separation.
It’s not easy to remove emotional layers, so trust a professional. Often, under the indifference of relationships lie very strong feelings, it would be enough to have the patience and desire to find them...
I can hear the reproach, they say, why should a woman be attractive and charming, but a man, as always, won’t lift a finger?!
- Firstly, you are again looking for the reason not in yourself.
- And secondly... for God's sake, stay ordinary, it's your choice. Life is about choice. The same Roksolana studied the Turkish language and the laws of government in order to be attractive to the Sultan, Cleopatra learned alchemy and the secrets of magic.
What are you interested in, first of all, to yourself?..
When you like a man, you always want to know whether the feelings are mutual. And if the attraction has grown into something more, then the woman thinks about it constantly. How can you determine whether a man is in love with you and whether he is hiding his feelings?
How to know that a man is in love if he hides it
Until the lady finds out the truth, she will not calm down. After all, knowing that the chosen one also sympathizes with her gives a woman confidence. Her charms work, life is wonderful. Therefore, if you like a handsome young man or an impressive man, it is better to find out immediately how he treats you.
Of course, no matter how trite it may sound, but all people are different. And when they fall in love, they don’t behave like everyone else:
- someone is sad and casts languid glances,
- someone is angry with their feelings, because we are tormented by the same thought: “What if she is not free or does not feel sympathy?” and at the same time behaves somewhat aggressively.
But there are still ways to recognize whether a man is in love with you.
So, let's begin.
- First of all, you must take a close look at the object of desire. Despite the feigned calm, his eyes can express everything that he himself is silent about. He cannot take his eyes off the lady he likes. The desire to possess her is so great that he “devours” his chosen one with his eyes. Alas, it is very difficult to notice this yourself. If only because if you pay attention to a man, he will immediately look away. But here friends and acquaintances can come to the rescue. Ask a friend to discreetly watch the man.
- When a girl with whom a guy is in love is involved in a conversation, he will hang on her every word. Even if she is talking complete nonsense. People in love do not notice the shortcomings of their other halves. However, this statement is only half true.
I know a lot of girls and women! Each of them has its own highlight.
But not all men see her to appreciate her.
And to highlight your individuality, I have selected, in my opinion, useful articles.
Let's look at the reasons why a man may hide his feelings of falling in love.
There could be a lot of reasons:
- he is single or you are married,
- different social strata,
- different views on life,
- fear of serious relationships.
- After all, maybe you ran over his beloved dog with a car in the past. He seems to be in love, but the thought of poor Bobik haunts him.
What's the result? He will look for the very shortcomings in you that will help him overcome attraction. Such a man will argue with you at every opportunity, deliberately ignore you, and some will even try to make fun of you.
To be honest, I have no sympathy for such individuals. Simply put, they are not completely adequate; they are tormented by internal contradictions. It's like being at school. Boys attract girls' attention by pulling their pigtails. The more painfully he jerks, the more pleasure he gets. No logic. But if you have fallen in love with such a man, then the above signs indicate mutual feelings.
How to understand that a guy is in love but hides his feelings
There are other signs by which you can determine whether a young man is in love with you.
Namely:
- Excitement. If a man experiences this feeling when he sees you, he may be in love. Of course, unless you are from the tax or bailiff service, and your meeting with him is not a work one. When a desired object is nearby, we all get a little lost. Of course, it all depends on the character and self-esteem of the young man, but sometimes the most confident ones also experience a little anxiety. For example, he is a talented speaker, but next to you he cannot utter a word. Or he plays the guitar masterfully, but when he sees you, he is not able to play a single melody.
- Appearance. When we are in love, we want to look special. So that your beloved will pay attention and appreciate it. Not all, of course, but many men in love take clothes more seriously. Previously, he was ready to go to work in ordinary sweatpants, but today he is dressed like a real gentleman. Well, this is certainly an indicator that he cares about the woman. True, if you are not the only lady in the team, it is better to take a good look at the other competitors. What if he didn't dress up for you?
- Behavior. Watch him. How does he behave with other female representatives? If he openly flirts with others, it means he doesn't have serious feelings for you. It’s another matter when he gives you sincere compliments - that is, not typical, but individual. For example, he notices that your hairstyle is different today, or that you are in a good mood. And with other women he shows politeness and tact, but does not try to interest them.
If you have only a friendly relationship for now, a man in love will want to introduce you to his close circle, that is, to his friends. Thus, he emphasizes that he considers you not a stranger.
The young man will talk about plans for the future: work, children and family. So he wants to show that his intentions are serious. And this is another way to find out what you want and whether your life priorities coincide.
How to understand that a man is in love, but hides his feelings. Male opinion
When I first really liked a girl, I stupidly found her on one of the social networks and added her as a friend. We were introduced by mutual friends, but our paths rarely crossed. How else could I hint to her that I wouldn’t mind chatting? Sometimes I looked through her page and appreciated the photos. This type of communication is quite normal today.
From Monday to Friday, everyone is busy with work and study, and you don’t want to miss the opportunity to chat with the lady you like. What if she meets someone else during this period? So, if a man is actively involved in your virtual life- this is one of the signs of his sympathy. In addition, this is how he finds out whether he has competitors.
I believe that prolonged virtual communication does not contribute to the development of relationships. Before taking action, a short correspondence is needed. Otherwise, you risk remaining one of the virtual girlfriends with whom there is nothing to talk about.
If he doesn’t dare to take the next step, take the initiative and invite him to a cafe or a museum of modern art. This way you will definitely find out whether he has sympathy for you.
After a short correspondence, the moment came when the lady of my heart needed help. Of course, I couldn’t refuse her. I believe that she had the opportunity to contact any other person, but she asked me specifically. Why? It's simple. The girl also liked me and decided to test my feelings.
After all, if a man cares about a woman, he will never refuse her request. Therefore, feel free to ask your chosen one to help you with something. Of course, he won’t buy you a fur coat or a diamond ring. And a bungalow in the Maldives too. Be realistic. The request may not be that significant. For example, you can ask for help moving a closet if you know for sure that he has such an opportunity. Or help with the report if you work together.
And finally. Dear ladies, you should not look for signs where there are none. If a man pays attention to you once, this does not mean that he is in love. Perhaps he is in search of fleeting hobbies, or has immediately cooled down.
And if you see that a young man is interested in you, for whom you do not have mutual feelings, it is better to immediately delicately hint about it to him.
There are already almost two times fewer men on the planet than women. So your admirer can become a real knight for someone. Agree, you wouldn’t be so sorry for wasting your time if the man hinted that his heart was no longer free.
Thus, with the question of how to understand what you like man in love in you, but at the same time hides his feelings, I think everything is clear. And if not, then ask questions to the studio!
Good mood to you all.
In love matters, the strong half of humanity is characterized by modesty. Men become shy and modest when it comes to real feelings. Women who are more emotional and courageous in this regard sometimes need to push their chosen one to confess. How to do this delicately and how to understand that a man is in love, but is hiding his feelings?
A common reason why representatives of the stronger sex hide their feelings is the fear that they will not be reciprocated, will be rejected or even ridiculed. No matter how paradoxical it may sound, when it comes to real feelings, the stronger sex can become indecisive and capricious. And here the main thing is to understand whether the companion is really in love and, after making sure of a positive result, help him open up.
Why can a man hide his feelings?
Many women are familiar with the situation when a lover does not show signs of attention, does not show feelings. Men simply do not understand that if they hide their feelings, a woman may soon doubt their existence. It is very important for women to realize that they are loved and dear. Strong hugs, pleasant words and expressions of feelings are simply necessary for women; without them they feel lonely. Doubts and jealousy appear. Why does a man, even when he feels love for his chosen one, hide his feelings? There are several such reasons.
- No matter how trivial it may sound, this is customary among the stronger half. Emotionality, in their opinion, is a typically feminine trait, and a real man should be restrained and not show emotions and feelings.
- Society does not take well to overly impulsive, emotional men.
In reality, men are often no less sensitive than women, but public opinion and prevailing stereotypes force them to be reserved. There is an opinion that ladies adore brutal, rude men, and many guys, wanting popularity, try to match this image. This is one of the ways to create and maintain an image.
- Men are afraid to receive the title of henpecked. When entering into a serious relationship, he fears that the chosen one, having learned about the depth of feelings, will begin to manipulate him. Every representative of the stronger sex values freedom and independence, and even realizing that he always wants to be with his lady, he does not want to lose them. The way out of the situation is to restrain your feelings and not give them free rein.
- There is an opinion in the male community that a man in love is a weak person. Falling in love makes you weaker and more vulnerable. In order not to look like a weakling among friends and acquaintances, a man does not show feelings.
- The fourth reason was wonderfully described by the classic: “The more we love a girl, the less she likes us.” According to popular belief, a woman, upon learning that a man has fallen in love, may lose interest. This behavior maintains interest in the opposite sex and adds mystery to the gentleman.
The last reason sounds like a “method of protection.” By nature, men are vulnerable and sensitive. For them, a frank declaration of love is comparable to voluntary surrender, the same as putting your head on the block, taking off your helmet and laying down your sword. Secrecy and silence are a kind of armor that protects a sensitive heart.
Signs of a man falling in love
To understand whether your prince is in love with you, you need to closely observe his behavior when he is with you.
- He talks in detail about himself and his loved ones. If the companion constantly keeps up the conversation, talks a lot about himself, trying to make a positive impression, it means that he is interested in the woman. In this way, he lets his chosen one into his life, gives him the opportunity to get acquainted with things that are important to him. If a lady doesn’t miss a chance, shows sincere interest, listens carefully, helps her open up, this will be the first step towards a long relationship.
- Listens carefully and hears his companion. A clear sign that a man is interested. In this case, a woman can create the right impression about herself by talking about her hobbies, life priorities... This is a wonderful moment for searching for common interests and common ground.
- I started taking better care of myself. When a man begins to devote more time to his appearance: buys new clothes, joins a gym, carefully selects his image - this is a sure sign that there is someone he wants to please and show off from the most advantageous sides.
- Care. If a man helps carry heavy bags or offers help with household chores, this may indicate more than just politeness and good manners. Repeated displays of concern may well indicate that a gentleman cares.
- Thoughts about stable income, material well-being. If before a man was little interested in well-being, but now he is seriously thinking about it, perhaps he is thinking about starting a family.
Psychology of a man in love
Behavior of a man in love
Sign language
In addition to obvious signs, pay attention to non-verbal, unconscious ones. The main thing is to read body language and facial expressions correctly.
- No matter how the lover tries to hide his feelings, his body is tense, a little constrained.
- Hands may shake from embarrassment or excitement, and palms may sweat.
- Arms crossed on the chest indicate an attempt to close oneself. When a man opens up, straightens his shoulders, he shows off his body, shows off, and attracts attention.
- Physical attraction can be assumed if during communication a man periodically touches the belt or puts his hands on his hips.
- Reducing the distance when talking. When falling in love, a man tries to get closer at every opportunity, to penetrate personal space.
Facial expressions and gaze
Unconscious glances towards the object of love. An interested person wants to enjoy, admire the image of his beloved.
It is very difficult for a lover to control his gaze, unless, of course, he is an intelligence agent. By noticing how a man looks, it is easy to determine whether he is in love. Admiration shines in the eyes of a man towards his beloved. Often, when talking, the gaze unconsciously stops at the lips. Realizing that it is indecent to closely examine their beloved, men begin to hide their gaze and look on the sly. But these glances are so common that they are not difficult to catch.
Psychology
The behavior of a person in love is often unstable. Constant change of mood from thoughtfulness and lyricism to fun and relaxedness.
What should a woman do?
Do you absolutely know that a young man is secretly not indifferent to you, but for some reason stubbornly hides his feelings? Or maybe it's just a trick of the imagination? How to understand that he is really in love? We will talk about why men hide their attraction so carefully. You will learn how you can determine their true feelings by their behavior, gaze, gestures and body language.
Here are some of the most common reasons why men tend to hide their feelings:
- He has a girlfriend or wife. The most common and common reason. The guy already has someone and he doesn’t want to break off a comfortable relationship for another girl, even if he really loves her. Articles that will be useful to you: , .
- In a man's world, it is customary to be restrained, to be able to control yourself and your emotions. For a young man to show his interest or love means to show his weakness. He has no right to be weak under any circumstances. It's different for women. When a guy is interesting to us, we try to show it. A man prefers to do everything consistently and does not waste his energy on stupid fantasies. Even if the relationship does not go beyond intimate, he will be restrained in showing his interest.
- Bad experience. Having experienced a difficult breakup, men do not seek to tie themselves in any way again. It is much easier for them to date without being constrained by any obligations. Some even become recluses.
- A man lives alone for a very long time. He is independent, his own boss. He’s so used to it, he’s so comfortable. Therefore, he begins to perceive a woman as something that can disrupt his established life. For her sake, the guy will have to change his foundations and habits, but he doesn’t want to do this.
- He is not sure of his feelings. Or maybe this is not love at all, but just fleeting sympathy? Then why discover it? It will pass and that will be the end of it. And we, women, suffer, suffer, think about what is going on in his head.
- A man is subject to stereotypes. For some reason, in their male world, it is believed that the more restrained and colder a young man behaves, the more a woman will fall in love with him. This is actually a big mistake. You should not abuse indifference, no matter how strong your principles are.
- The guy is afraid of being rejected. The young man thinks, is it necessary to take the first step? What if he's not good? What if the sympathy is not mutual? Even self-confident men can turn out to be timid and shy at such a moment. In this case, they prefer to remain silent and pretend that the girl is indifferent.
The main signs that he is secretly in love
Of course, everything is individual, but there are common signs:
The man began to actively monitor his appearance, taking a shower more often, combing your hair, going to the gym, smelling of expensive or not so expensive perfume - all this indicates a desire to impress a woman.
He is happy to talk about himself. A young man in love will never miss a chance to tell about himself, his hobbies and interests. He may even start boasting about his achievements. In this way, he makes it clear that the woman matters to him, and he would like her to get to know him better.
Listens carefully. The young man will listen with pleasure and show interest in your words, life and needs. He has a desire to help, to show concern. Even if he doesn't shower you with expensive gifts, he will try to please you in other ways.
In addition, your fan will try to find out as much information about you as possible. But since he wants to hide his feelings, he will do it secretly.
Do you want to know all the secrets of seducing men? We recommend watching free video course Alexey Chernozem "12 laws of seduction for women." You will receive a step-by-step 12-step plan on how to drive any man crazy and keep his affection for many years.
The video course is free. To watch, go to this page, leave your e-mail and you will receive an email with a link to the video.
Showing aggression is a possible sign of love. It sounds paradoxical, but it is true. Sometimes a guy tries to hurt a woman as much as possible, even to offend her. In this way he is trying to attract your attention.
Another reason for aggressive behavior on the part of a man may be excessive pressure and intrusiveness on your part. A man perceives such behavior as an encroachment on his sovereignty and independence. If a man wants a relationship, thinks about it, then he strives to manage the situation himself.
A man in love is betrayed by his behavior. We collected.
In addition, it is useful to take a closer look at it. They can also tell a lot of interesting things about his feelings.
A man in love is jealous. If one or more contenders for her heart begin to revolve around the object of his love, then he may also begin to behave aggressively. He will want to win you away from other fans. Whether this happens openly or secretly depends on the man.
He flirts actively with others. In your presence, a man can calmly flirt with another woman, thereby, on the one hand, showing his indifference, and on the other, trying to make you jealous. A man, oddly enough, sometimes also wants to receive proof of your feelings.
The guy shows indifference. In general company, a man will not show attention, trying to avoid glances, meetings and general topics. It's simple: if he himself is not sure of his feelings, then it makes no sense to show them in the presence of other people.
The man is constantly looking at you. If a man constantly glances at you, it means he is in love. A man can sneak a glance or, conversely, maintain a visual connection. It all depends on his temperament and self-confidence. More details on this topic:
Has the young man begun to appear more often in your field of vision? This definitely shows his interest. The reasons for its appearance can be the most stupid. For example, because his horoscope predicted so. He will never name the real reason. After all, he does not yet know whether the woman will reciprocate his feelings.
Does a man try to get closer or touch at every opportunity? This fact can speak not only about falling in love. This is also an indicator that a man is showing sexual interest in you. He will be very tactful in its manifestation and will try not to offend. For men, the first intimate contact with the woman they love is just as exciting as for a woman.
Useful video on the topic:
What to do if you notice signs of falling in love in a man
If you like the guy, then the surest step is. If it’s all about some of his fears or complexes, then he will feel bolder and take the first step.
If you hinted to him, and he still keeps his distance, then he has some serious problems. Perhaps it should.
It's not just women who tend to hide their feelings in front of the man they're in love with. The stronger sex - similarly - is not always in a hurry to demonstrate sympathy. But still, a number of signs make it possible to determine and understand that behind the demonstrative indifference or friendly attitude there is something more hidden.
There are many reasons why representatives of the stronger sex hide their feelings:
- natural restraint;
- specific education;
- low self-esteem;
- fear of being rejected;
- unsuccessful relationships in the past;
- fear of getting close, losing freedom, becoming dependent.
Many men feel vulnerable when they are in love and hide their feelings until they are sure of reciprocity.
Introverts, timid, shy, insecure people “sway” for a long time until they come to frank confessions. Men who are already in a relationship are in no hurry to reveal their sympathy.
How does a man who is in love but hides his feelings behave?
Although a man tries to hide his true feelings, certain physical signs can indicate that he is in love.
The eyes always betray a “male” in love. He looks at the object of his passion intently if he is sure that it is not noticed. When meeting eye-to-eye, a timid or secretive person most often looks away. But if a woman turns away, she may feel that she is being carefully examined, as if she is being studied. Also, the state of falling in love gives off a special shine, “sparkles” in the eyes - they are difficult to “put out” even for a man who has good self-control.
Facial expressions
The state of falling in love can be “calculated” by facial expressions. The facial expression changes: it looks kinder, more complacent, friendly, joyful. A slight blush on the cheeks, dilated pupils, tilting the head to the side, raised eyebrows, slightly flared nostrils indicate obvious sympathy.
Gestures are an excellent indicator of the state of falling in love. A man, as if by chance, touches a woman - her palms, elbows, back, shoulders. Helping you put on your coat, he can put your arm around your waist and touch your hair. Men's excitement in the presence of the object of passion is indicated by frequent smoothing of their hair and shaking of dust particles from their clothes. The lover visually tries to look better: straightens his posture, tightens his stomach, straightens his clothes and accessories. Sexual attraction is indicated by touching the hips, the belt of trousers, hands in pockets, and legs spread wide apart while sitting.
You can guess that a man has fallen in love by a change in behavior. He begins to do things that he had not previously observed (for example, in the presence of his beloved, he begins to flirt intensely with other young ladies). He can also withdraw and demonstrate complete indifference, although before this there were no problems in communication. The other extreme is exclusive attention to the object of passion, offers to help, and the provision of signs of attention that are presented as friendly.
Unlike women, the state of falling in love does not in any way affect the performance of the stronger sex. It is unlikely that you will be able to catch an employee in love who, instead of working, looks dreamily out the window.
Rather, on the contrary, inspired by feelings, he will become much more active in order to please his passion, stand out from the crowd, and attract her attention.
How to determine and understand that a secretive man has fallen in love?
Even if a man makes every effort to hide his love feelings, some characteristic signs will help to declassify them.
Signs of falling in love
Psychology of a man in love who hides it
Although the “male” strives to win the woman he likes, certain psychological barriers prevent him from taking initiative and force him to take a wait-and-see attitude.
Emotionality in our society is considered a typically feminine trait, so representatives of the stronger sex are reluctant to express feelings, including love ones. They also like to watch how a woman falls in love, strives for rapprochement, taking timid steps towards.
But whatever the psychological reasons behind this secret, by carefully observing a man, analyzing his words and actions, it can always be revealed.
Find out accurately and urgently -
Security measures -
There are a lot of unworthy men in the world, and they always behave the same way: they promise heaven, and then disappear. Of course, this scheme may be veiled. Communication is supplemented by daily dates, nightly romance, gifts, but, as a rule, ends in complete ignorance.
The fact that a man talks about love and greets you every morning does not indicate the depth of feelings. Perhaps he is simply comfortable in this relationship. How to understand that a man is pretending and in reality he does not care about you and your desires? Read on and maybe you will get the answer to your question.
A man is indifferent when...
1. Doesn't get bored
The head of a guy in love is filled with thoughts about his girlfriend. Leaving for several hours, he is eager to see her again, he misses her terribly. If this is not the case, then there is no need to talk about love. An indifferent man will act as if he broke up with you an hour ago, although perhaps a week has already passed.
2. Doesn't make eye contact
What does a lover do? He tries to catch the woman’s gaze, looking straight at her. A man who doesn't feel anything avoids direct visual contact. It’s easier for him to study the wall, his own hands, the TV screen, but not the eyes of the woman next to him. An indifferent look is a clear sign of disinterest.
Of course, a man can look at other charms, but this only indicates his lust. This means that he regards his girlfriend only as a sexual object. Being in her company, he will be bored and impatient. This is usually expressed in chair rocking and finger tapping. Have you noticed this about your chosen one? Such nonverbal signals are a clear sign of a lack of feelings. Passion should inspire, not bore.
3. Upstaged
A man can have a bunch of interests and hobbies, but none of them, in theory, should interfere with the relationship. Love comes first, and everything other than love can be put away. If you are not in a man's heart, you automatically fade into the background. This manifests itself in a very prosaic way: instead of making a date with you, he meets with friends at a bar. The chosen one prefers watching TV or reading a book to gentle telephone “serenades”. It's up to you to decide whether this man is worth your precious years.
4. Doesn't let you into your life
If a man doesn’t care about you, he won’t talk about his life. This is expressed in a reluctance to talk about the family or invite them home. He carefully guards his space, living in anticipation of true love. It is quite possible that you have never gone shopping together or gone to the sea, which is typical for a one-sided relationship. This man is in no hurry to introduce you to his surroundings and in every possible way avoids meeting your relatives.
A different type of man, even if he does not have special feelings for a girl, can take her with him. However, in company she acts aloof: she will never hug, take her hand, kiss, or ask if she is comfortable. He won’t even notice if some young man shows signs of attention to his companion, while he himself will actively flirt with other girls.
5. Doesn't ask anything
A man who is in love tries to grasp the train of thought of his passion. He will never miss such important, in his opinion, nuances as her well-being and mood. How does your chosen one behave? Does he care about your experiences, does he listen with interest to stories about vivid childhood experiences, fears and problems at work? A man's toughness disappears under the pressure of love, and even a naturally indifferent young man will do everything to make his sad girlfriend laugh.
6. Doesn't show up for no reason
Someone whose heart is silent will not call a girl just like that. Lovers do the same thing: they dial a number to find out how they are, to say that they miss you. In the worst case scenario, the man never calls first and often hangs up and cancels appointments an hour before the scheduled time.
7. Doesn't say "we"
The pronoun “we” coming out of a man’s mouth means acceptance. So he admits that the couple exists and the girl is part of his life. It's a warning sign if a guy, getting ready to go to the cinema with you, says to a friend: “I'm going to see a movie.”
8. Doesn't store shared photos
A loved one should always be nearby, so a guy interested in a girl copies her photo on social networks and takes a photo with her as a keepsake. A couple of images are necessarily stored in the phone’s memory, and the most successful photo adorns the display and monitor screen.
9. Thinks only about his own pleasure
If a man has feelings for you, he will show care even in bed. Whatever they do, they will certainly monitor your reaction, remembering which caresses they like the most. An indifferent person acts according to the standard scheme and finishes when he needs to. And what the lady feels at this moment is of little concern to the unresponsive partner.
Does your chosen one fall under these criteria? Don't be upset. Of course, it’s sad that so much time and emotions were wasted, but a new stage begins in your life - without an “empty” man. He will regret more than once that he missed a worthy girl, and you... you will find your soul mate. After all, everyone in the world is destined for someone by fate.
Good afternoon, dear ladies! It can sometimes be very difficult to understand a man, what he is really experiencing, whether he is interested and how he feels about your relationship. It's so easy to create a beautiful image. Today I would like to talk about how to understand that he is indifferent to you, that he has long cooled down and there is no interest in a relationship. I will talk about what depends on us and how we can influence a man, what we can do to maintain the interest of our loved one even after a while and not turn the relationship into everyday family squabbles.
There are no perfect relationships
A woman wants to meet a prince who will carry her in his arms, shower her with gifts and bestow his attention. A completely understandable desire. Of course, we want to have a beautiful, smart, interesting person nearby. Only few people understand that they don’t become princes. Princes are raised. I present to your attention Anetta Orlova’s book “ The man of your dreams. Find, attract, tame».
We often see ideal couples in which people seem to be made for each other, everything is good and wonderful for them. But this is just the surface. Every relationship has its own problems, it’s just that some people know how to negotiate and cope with difficulties, while others don’t.
It is much more difficult for a man to approach a woman with a problem. Therefore, your task is to sense any change in his mood. But you shouldn’t be too intrusive and immediately try to sort things out because of any little thing. Learn to be and.
Hint to your husband that he can come to you with any of his problems, if something doesn’t suit him, let him tell you directly about it. But you must promise both him and yourself that you will not react too violently to his words.
If he asks you for variety in bed, then don’t immediately swear and scream, blaming him. Remember, the marital bed should not be cold, because sex is often the cause of discord in the family.
If he says something about your cooking skills, again, don't overreact. Listen carefully to the complaint, ask what way out he sees from this situation, think for yourself what you can change and look for a compromise. This is the only way you can maintain a healthy relationship for many years.
Indifference test
You can lose interest in your partner at any stage of the relationship. You just started an affair or you have been married for fifteen years. Doesn't matter. Let's conduct a short test that will help us determine how critical everything is in your case.
I offer you seven questions that need to be answered “yes” or “no.” If you get more than four “no” answers, then you clearly have problems in your relationship.
- Do you have any common activities, hobbies or interests?
- Does your spouse share his plans with you?
- Does he often call or text you first?
- Is he trying to pleasantly surprise you?
- Does he listen to your opinion, does he respect your opinion?
- Does he involve you in his life?
- Does he often initiate meetings?
What was your result? If there are only a couple of negative answers, it’s okay, but you still need to take action. If more than half of the answers are “no,” then you should seriously think about the relationship.
A man wants to see diversity. Boredom is one of the most common reasons for divorce. When a husband constantly sees his wife in just a robe, she doesn’t say anything new or interesting, she’s completely bogged down in household chores and worries. Who might be interested in such a woman?
Yes, I agree, it’s not easy for a woman anyway. , yourself, children, husband. It can be difficult to break down into all aspects of your life. But you can always find a way out.
First, you must have something for your soul. What you will want to devote your free time to. Because you should not be available to a man 24/7. He must seek your attention. Even the husband with whom you have lived for eight years under the same roof. Change your behavior, get carried away with something.
A busy woman attracts attention.
Secondly, don’t be afraid to change your image. Today a blonde, tomorrow a brunette, a month later a redhead. Play with your appearance. This will benefit you too. A woman blossoms when changes occur in her life. Give yourself such a shake-up sometimes.
Third, don't let your relationship with a man become the only important thing in your life. Women love to give themselves entirely to a man. This causes boredom and one day leads a man to the point that he is no longer interested in this relationship.
I bring to your attention a wonderful article “”, in which you will find many useful tips for maintaining the interest of your beloved.
How does your loved one's indifference manifest itself? What do you do yourself to maintain his interest? How is your relationship developing?
Work on yourself. Love and appreciate yourself. Don't let a man completely take over your life.
Wish you all the best!
